I’m out of work at the moment, in fact I’ve been out of work for a couple of years now. During my drinking I was able to put it out of my mind and ignore it, but no more alcohol means no more ignoring. And that’s not really a bad thing – I’m sure that getting back into work will be good for my mental state, not to mention the fact that I’ll have some money coming in.
When I was sat at home for the last couple of years I gradually became more and more scared of even looking for a job. I had so many worries running through my mind. I worried about whether I would find any jobs out there that I could do, or would want to do. Since leaving university I only had one job really, where I worked for around 7 years. After that I had only one other job for a short period of time. Neither of those jobs ended in a particularly good way and I had a lot of anxiety around how well I would cope with other jobs. It wasn’t that I wanted to be out of work, I really didn’t, but in some way I just fell into depression and became incredibly fearful about the situation I was in.
I built up a fear for looking at job websites, worried that I might find out that there wasn’t anything suitable for me out there and that it would just make me feel more depressed. The longer that I went without a job, the worse the feelings got and the harder it became to see a way out. I worried more and more about how I would explain the time that I’d been out of work to a new employer and my self-confidence dropped to an all time low.
Like so many of my problems, I avoided all the issues of finding new work by just putting it off for now with the all too familiar attitude of “I’ll have a look tomorrow” – that and of course drinking to forget. It’s amazing how much clearer things are beginning to seem now that I’ve stopped drinking. Even though I still have the same basic worries, I somehow feel much more able to conquer those fears. I feel able to search the job sites and apply for things, able to just move ahead one step at a time and just see what happens.
I’ve had interviews for one place so far, and I didn’t manage to get the job, but at least it’s a start. At least there are some jobs out there that I feel that I can do and which I even feel that I’d enjoy. I think the fact I have a gap in my employment history of a couple of years is holding me back from getting some positions, but I will just keep at it until I find something. I do now feel that given a bit of time there will be a way for me back into work and hopefully from there onwards and upwards.
It’s amazing how taking the alcohol away makes problems seem less severe, rather than the mountains that they seemed to be a couple of months ago.